In this article we will explore why mediation and a settlement could a better option than litigation. Learn more below why mediation is a great choice that will save you time, frustration and money when parents have to decide child custody.
When parents can’t agree on child custody and visitation, their first instinct is to “take the other parent to court.” Many parents seem to think that if the other parent won’t agree to their demands, the court will automatically grant them exactly what they want.
1. Child Custody proceedings are lengthy. Compared to mediation, which is typically completed in a few sessions, family law litigation is a much lengthier process. Although temporary orders may be issued shortly after your case begins, getting permanent orders takes time – in some cases, a very long time. Exactly how long depends on you, the other parent, any lawyers that are involved, and how much conflict exists.
2. Legal Battles are expensive even if you don’t hire a lawyer to represent you, you may quickly find out that there is no “cheap” way to litigate a case. Filing fees, service of process charges, court reporters, professional evaluations, and more can easily lead to thousands of dollars in costs. And once lawyers get involved on either side, that amount can easily triple.
4. The court is going to make a determination based on what it feels is in the “best interest” of YOUR child (who they know nothing about and may never meet). Your definition of “best interest” and the court’s idea of best interest may be on two different spectrum’s. The court’s order may not make any sense for your family, but once it’s issued, you have to follow it unless you and the other parent finally can agree to change it. If you and your child’s other parent can put your differences aside and really think about what’s best for your child, you’ll probably be much better off.
5. Judges are only human but with decision power not afforded to the average layperson. They have a life, family, things on their “to do” list, and more. So, although it’s easy to put them on a pedestal, just like you they make mistakes, have bad days, get frustrated, don’t understand, are at work. Don’t walk into the courthouse expecting to appear before a supernatural human that can work magic…you’ll be disappointed.
6. Agreements feel better When you are able to sit down with the other parent and compromise, although you may not get everything you want, you’ll at least know that what you’re getting will be something that is reasonable based on your family’s needs. Agreements open the door to cooperation. It’s not something that is forced, but a decision YOU had a hand in. For this reason, once you’re able to reach an agreement on the bigger issues, you’ll slowly be able to reach an agreement on other things and learn to work together for the benefit of your child.
The fact of the matter is, when you are asking a court to make a decision that affects your life, they will not always get it right. If you would like to discuss your options regarding child custody contact Anthony Moreno at (816) 200-0467.
